Healthy Couple Relationship Tips from Elderly

Throughout my Healthy Couple Relationship course, I have learned many things. For the past lecture, I have learned five tips from the elderly on relationships. They include: marrying someone like you, friendship is just as important as romantic love, don’t keep score, talk to each other, and don’t commit it to your partner-commit it to marriage itself. In my own opinion, I feel like they all are essential in a healthy relationship. If I had to pick just one, I would say that marring someone a lot like you is the most important. I say this because when the ‘butterflies,’ and romantic gestures fades out, you are still married to that person. If the couple doesn’t get along, other than in a romantic way, then there really is no relationship. When I get married, I want to marry someone who has the same core values as myself. I would like to have the same goals and understandings in life. Without similarities, there could be tension and fighting in the relationship. This goes into having a friendship with your partner is just as good as having romantic love. I want my husband to be my best friend, someone I can tell all my secrets to. Someone I can have fun with and be completely myself. I would say that talking to each other would be next in line on the importance scale. If there is no communication about problems, then it could lead to boiling up and all the problems come on. It could ruin the entire relationship. As I feel like all five tips are important, I would say those are my top three. In a relationship, if you keep score, you’re already asking for trouble. The partners should just want to see what they can do to satisfy their partner or how they can make them happy. As so committing yourself to marriage and your partner, I feel like that’s important too. Marriage needs to be taken seriously. All in all, the top three tips I want in my future healthy relationship would be marrying someone like me, having a friendship and a romantic love, and talking to each other because communication is key.