Differences in Communication with My Personal Examples

Today, I’m going to discuss the differences in WHAT males and females communicate, and not HOW they communication. This topic is going to be related back to my previous relationship. Females discuss their feelings, while males discuss objects and actions. In my previous relationship, I would tell my partner how I felt and the emotions I had throughout the day. My partner would tell me about football, basketball, changing oil, and basically anything that didn’t have to do with feelings. I would try to get what he was feeling out of him one day and it was a complete fail. He wasn’t into talking about feelings, emotions, or deep conversations. Females speak with less force, being indirect and less certain when speaking to men. Whereas men speak forcefully, being more direct and certain when speaking with other men. In my past relationship I would ask my partner ‘I’m going to go to Lacie’s house if that’s okay..?” Although I was telling him what I was doing, it came out to be more of a question. I was not forceful and I was indirect with less certainly in my tone of voice. My partner would be more forceful when talking. For example, he would come over saying “I’m going out tonight with buddies.” He would leave it at that. When he did go out with his friends, he wasn’t talking as certain with them as he would to me. The last difference that I’m going to talk about is that females have higher expressivity, and men have more instrumentality. I would speak in dramatic terms, whereas my partner would take more leadership in the conversations. All in all, there are differences in men and women- especially in what they communicate about in relationships.