Stages of Dissolution and My Personal Example

Today, I’m going to talk about the stages of dissolution, or the stages of my previous break up. The first stage is the personal phase. This is when one partner grows to be dissatisfied in the relationship. In my pervious relationship, I started to become unsatisfied around 4 years of dating. The second stage I went through is called the dyadic phase. This is when confrontation happens. I told my ex that I was unhappy. We did try to resolve our issues, but they were too far along to be fix. There really wasn’t any way for me to be completely happy with him again. The next stage I hit was the social phase. This is when the partner seeks support from friends or family. For me, I went right to my friends. I would vent about my relationship problems, and soon they became sick of it. I was sick of how many problems our relationship had and how many negative things I had to say about it. The next stage I hit was the grave-dressing phase. This is when mourning decreases, and you ‘get over your loss.’ This stage basically becomes a ‘story’ of the relationship. At this stage I would tell my friends, ‘yeah we used to do that…’ etc. The final stage I went through was the resurrection phase. This is where I re-enters my social life as a single person. This was a major change for me because I just came out of 5 year relationship with my ex. However, I learned how to make myself happy again and I moved forward with my life.