Filter Theory of Attraction

Filter Theory of Attraction really stood out to me because it happens in my everyday life. Filter Theory of Attraction is the process an individual/couple can go through to meet all of their potential dating partners; or basically how person A ends up with person B. The first 'filter' is called proximity. Proximity says that the person has to be close to you in time and space. Well, this theory has changed a little bit because nowadays we have social media and we're connecting with more and more people all over the world. For example, in my life I have used "Tinder," which shows people near you. However, if I were to travel, it would still show people near me, but I could potentially meet someone hundreds of miles away from where I originally live. The next filter is attractiveness- something about this person is attractive to you. This could mean looks, money, etc. In my life, I have been attracted to someone because of their looks, and also because of the way they dress (their style). The next filter is called similarities. In my life, I have met people that have complete opposite goals in life than mine and the relationship did not work. For example, my ex-boyfriend was obsessed with working out and football, whereas I was obsessed with our relationship and school. My ex-boyfriend rarely had time for me, and when he did he would always want to work out together. We were not similar at all and it caused the relationship to crumble. The next filter is complementary, which is personal characteristics. In my experience, I have met someone very shy (and I was shy too), so the conversation didn't last long because neither of us knew what to talk about. Whereas, in a different relationship I had, one of us was talkative and the other was shyer. I believe that together we made a good team, and that it was just the right amount of difference. Finally, the last filter that relationships go through is commitment readiness. In my past 'relationship,' I was the one ready for a relationship and my partner was not. He did not want to have a relationship with me, not now and possibly not in the future either, but he was stilling wanting to hang out and have a "thing." I ended it there because I didn't want to waste any time if the relationship wasn't going anywhere. All relationships are different, but I firmly believe that in most relationships, we all go through at least one of these filters to find our "soul mate."